Navigating the Annoying Side of Self-Help
Dear diary,
🙄Ugh, I don’t know what’s wrong with me lately. I keep telling myself, “You got this!” and “Just keep going!” but it’s like my brain is stuck in neutral. It’s like every self-help book or motivational quote I read just makes me roll my eyes and want to throw my phone out the window.🪟
I mean, don’t get me wrong, I know these pep talks are well-intentioned.🙏 But sometimes it feels like they’re just rubbing salt in the wound.😩 Like, if I really “got this,” wouldn’t I be feeling more confident and less stuck?
I don’t know, maybe I’m just being too hard on myself.🤔 Maybe I need to give myself a break and stop expecting so much all the time.😅 But at the same time, I don’t want to just give up and settle for mediocrity.💪
Lately it feels like all the self-help advice I come across is just making me feel worse.😤
I mean, it’s not like I haven’t tried.👀 I’ve read all the books📚, listened to all the podcasts🎧, and followed all the inspirational social media accounts.📲 But no matter how many times I tell myself, “You got this,” it just doesn’t seem to cut it.🙅♀️ It’s like my brain is stuck in a loop of self-doubt and frustration.
And don’t even get me started on those annoying quotes that are supposed to be motivating. “The only thing standing between you and your dreams is the story you keep telling yourself.”🤦♀️ Ugh, spare me. If it were that easy, I’d be living my best life already.💁♀️
I know it’s not fair to dismiss all self-help advice as useless. After all, I’ve definitely benefitted from some of the things I’ve learned.💡 But sometimes it feels like there’s so much pressure to be positive and motivated all the time, and that’s just not realistic. We’re human, and sometimes we need to feel our feelings and sit with our struggles for a bit.🧘♀️
But then again, I don’t want to give up on myself either. I don’t want to settle for mediocrity or let my self-doubt hold me back.💥 So what do I do when “You got this” doesn’t cut it? How do I navigate the annoying side of self-help when I need more than just a pep talk?🤷♀️
Let’s face it, life can be tough sometimes. We all face different challenges, and what works for one person might not work for another. So instead of trying to force myself into some kind of generic self-help mold, maybe I need to get specific about what’s really holding me back. It’s time to do some soul-searching and figure out what approach will work best for me, rather than trying to fit into someone else’s idea of what self-help should be.🔍
Maybe I should divide my goals into bite-sized pieces that I can actually chew on instead of attempting to swallow them whole.🍽️ And while I’m at it, maybe it’s time to say “goodbye” to those pesky negative self-talk patterns that keep tripping me up and say “hello” to more positive affirmations that would make my inner critic go “What the heck, man?”.👋 And if all else fails, maybe I need to take a break from all this self-help madness, and just indulge in some ice cream because, who doesn’t love ice cream like seriously who can resist its sweet creamy, delicious goodness?🍦
You know what they say, sometimes you just gotta let it all out!😤 Sometimes there’s nothing better than venting to a friend who just “gets it.”🤝 But to be honest, after a good vent session, I often feel like I’ve spilled too many of my deep, dark secrets.😬 Though on one hand it can be helpful. It’s like a therapy session without the therapist bill, and who doesn’t love that?💰 And who knows, maybe they’ll even offer up some wisdom that will leave me feeling like a self-help guru.🤔💭
Let’s cut the fluff and get down to the nitty-gritty, like let’s be foreal foreal, sometimes we really just need to hear from someone who’s been there, done that, and got the t-shirt to prove it. You know, someone who can give us a good ole’ pat on the back and say, “You got this, girl!”💪 or “You’re doing better than you think!”🌟 or “Have you tried eating ice cream? It’s a game-changer!”🍨
We’re constantly bombarded with messages about how we should be doing more, being more, achieving more.💪🌟 But the truth is, there’s no one right way to grow and develop.🌱 What works for one person might not work for another.🤷♀️
That’s why I believe it’s important to be kind to ourselves and remember that self-improvement is a journey, not a destination.🙌 It’s okay to stumble and make mistakes along the way.💪👍 In fact, those setbacks can often be the greatest teachers.🎓
At the end of the day, we just need to be kind to ourselves and remember that self-improvement is a journey, not a destination.🚶♀️🚶♂️ So, let’s all take a collective breath and remind ourselves that we’re only human.🧑🤝🧑 It’s okay to struggle, it’s okay to make mistakes, and it’s okay to not always have all the answers.🤷♂️💭
So, the next time you’re feeling stuck or annoyed with self-help, take a break, treat yourself to some neapolitan ice cream, and keep experimenting until you find what works for you.🍦💡 You got this, my friend!👍
And who knows, maybe someday we’ll be the ones coming up with the catchy slogans and inspiring quotes that help others navigate the annoying side of self-help.🤔💭
Until then, I’ll keep reminding myself that it’s okay to not always “got this,” and that sometimes the best thing we can do is just keep showing up for ourselves and keep trying new things.💪👍
Thanks for listening, diary. You always know just what to say (or not say, I guess).🫠
Yours in self-help (and occasional eye-rolling),
Thegirlbehindthemask.
EcomfortDiary 
One response to “Dear Diary, Sometimes You Need More Than a Pep Talk”
Most defiantly , self-help, improving, personal development, or any other name we choose for bettering ourselves. It is an ever evolving journey. Sometimes we forget this and push ourselves too hard, or days could be just crappy for no reason at all. Yup perfect time to set it aside and have a nice creamy bowl of your favorite flavor of ice cream. And yes maybe breaking things down even more to bite size portions be could. However how about we just finish our ice cream for now? You want some syrup on yours?